Have I ever told you how much I appreciate having mommies read my blog? Well, here you go: I LOVE IT!!! I get e-mails and comments and I see that a lot of you have children of your own. It makes me feel like such a good daughter having moms other than mine care about what I do <3
So here is a post especially for moms (or dads but I doubt dads read my blog hehe) with daughters! Remember when I had my old blog over at Blogspot and I was all emo and goth? Saab the Strange? Remember that “DON’T” picture of mine? Oh God. Hahaha! All girls go through that phase, not necessarily becoming goth thank goodness, but I know how it feels to seem different from everyone and having nobody understand me. Check out this old blog post of mine (2005):
It’s called puberty and with puberty comes a girl’s first period. Here are some tips for when your little girl starts becoming a drama queen!
Know the signs. Nowadays, girls can get their periods as early as eight years old. If you notice that your daughter’s breasts are beginning to develop, or she has undergone a considerable growth spurt, then she might be approaching menarche (first period) in a few months. This will be a good time to tell her about the changes that will be taking place, and what she needs to do when they happen.
Educate her early. Don’t wait until your daughter gets her first period before educating her about the menstrual cycle. It’s important that she knows exactly what to do when the day finally comes. Additionally, you may want to clear up any misconceptions she may have gotten from her classmates and friends. Talk to her in a way that is age-appropriate; if she begins asking questions at an early age, you may answer her questions in general terms without going into overwhelming specifics.
Discuss the how’s and why’s. Inform your daughter about the basics: the reason why women get their periods, how the menstrual cycle works, and how often it occurs. Be open with her, and make sure to listen when she has any questions. Some girls may not feel comfortable talking about their period; in this case, you may want to write her a letter, or ask her to write down her worries and concerns in a note. Consider sharing with her your own experiences; she may be relieved to know that you also went through the same ups and downs she is now undergoing.
Be positive. Assure your daughter that getting her period is nothing to worry about; it’s all part of becoming a woman! Furthermore, explain to her that life doesn’t have to come to a standstill during that time of the month; with enough preparation and the right protection, she will still be able to participate in her favorite sports or activities even when she has her period.
Help her pick the right products. To ensure that your daughter is prepared for her period wherever she may be, put together a kit containing a couple of panty liners, pads, wet wipes and a change of underwear inside a discreet-looking pouch that she can carry around in her school bag or store in her locker. For the best protection, give her KOTEX Overnight Pads with ProActive Guards that she can wear comfortably while at school or while engaged in her extracurricular activities. The new and improved KOTEX Overnights have Pro-Active Guards that rise when they come in contact with fluid, keeping you worry-free and comfortable during your first day. Additionally, these pads provide her extra security during her busy days and while she sleeps.
Beginning her menstrual cycle doesn’t have to be a stressful time for your daughter. With your guidance, she’ll be able to cope easier with change and understand that her first period is a step towards becoming a woman! If she does turn into a goth girl during this transition, do what my mom did: nothing! You can’t control your daughter. These bad words and rock music she’s into aren’t signs that she’s going to worship Satan soon. My mom even bought me bags and clothes to complement my look. Haha! Just let her be and make sure you’re there to support her. She will snap out of it and she will want to be a good daughter because you’re awesome. Good luck!!
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Idol talaga kita sa pag-segways ng mga ads. hahaha. <3 <3
Heehee :)
Cool post. =))
Thanks :)
I’m using Kotex now because your picture’s there :) hihi
Yayyyy hahhaa
Great article, it was very informative. Although I don’t know why I still read everything here like I don’t have a clue about these stuff since I’m WAY past my “puberty pains” period HAHAHA. Good job as always, Saab :)
Hahaha no problem :D
Hahaha yes, I remember your Blogspot days! Woooo \m/ I am surprised that I, too, have moved on from that phase (THANK GOODNESS!). And I don’t mean that that was a bad phase. I am just thankful that I’m not stuck with it. :D
P.S. Parang feeling ko close tayo kasi avid reader ako ng blog mo before. Hihihihi love you <3
THANK YOU FOR STICKING WITH ME huhuhuhuhuhu
I’ve been looking for that overnight heavy flow and wala ako mabilhan! errrrr… i already try it na kase and sobrang ok siya as in!
this is a must read.. especially for mothers who are having problems with thier girls turning to ladies.. thumbs up!! :)
nice blog post! naalala ko tuloy ung moment na nagkaron ako sa school at wala akong idea kong anong gagawin ko (walang guidance busy sa work si mama) nakakahiya may stain sa uniform ko!:) more power saab:)
Awwwwwww that happened to my friend in grade school, I’m such a nice friend I helped her kinuskos namin yung skirt niya sa bathroom. This was in 5th grade hahaha!
Nice one! I never had the idea na it’s an ad until I reached the bottom! HAHA nice one! By the way, I’m a kotex girl:)
Yahoo!! Modern Maria Clara, appear!
Will buy Kotex already bec ur pic is there! Wahahaha lol
Yeheyyy
I have two sons but I can’t say I won’t be having any troubles with this. Although I really want to have a little girl on the family, I am still quite worried of having one. I, myself, used to be d “bad” one. Because they didn’t let me do some things I wanted like hanging out with friends or going to a concert with my brother. My parents used to say it was because I am a girl. Often, they wouldn’t let me just because they didn’t want me to. So I did my own “explorations” of course without their knowledge because they weren’t the open-minded type. Even having crushes had to be kept secret because my mom and dad would be angry. And when girls fall in love, or they think they are, they’re like water – the more you try to resist it, the harder it overflows. I know. Because I did. I am worried to have daughter who will follow my footsteps but I totally agree on what you said about understanding and guiding them. Not controlling them. If I do have a daughter, I’ll take your advise and try my best to really do it. Thanks Saab. (Btw, I use nightpads, too and I haven’t tried Kotex nightpads yet. But I will try next time “that” comes.)
Great post!
*IN the family (stupid fingers can’t use virtual keyboard well)
I’m sure in some way you’re also thankful for your parents’ super disciplinarian method. At the time, I personally didn’t understand why I wasn’t allowed to go to “Galle” (Robinson’s Galleria) like everybody else in my batch who was meeting potential boylets hahahaaha but now OMG I’m so happy I didn’t have a boyfriend at such a young age. I think kids will try and resist your rules no matter what so I suggest setting reasonable rules (no boyfriend/girlfriend til 18 then maybe bend it a little bit when she’s 16 because that’s what happened with me hehe) while also providing distractions for her like if she enjoys reading just give/suggest books and discuss her latest read. If your boys like basketball or music, go ahead and support them as much as you can without being a stage mom (a.k.a. don’t suffocate them) and they will hopefully pursue their passions instead of just scouting for girlfriends. Also, I think it’s important to put it in their heads that when the time comes, they should look for partners that share the same values as your family. So much unsolicited advice from a non-mother like me but I’m very grateful how I was brought up so I thought I’d share with you :)
P.S. Kotex has good overnight pads that are thin so you barely feel it :D Hehehe
Oh yeah I do… Unfortunately for me though, I really had to learn my lessons in a tough way. I used to think hindi nila ako naiintindihan. All along, ako lang talaga ang hindi nakakaintindi hehe but it’s never too late. ^^^